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Jul 11Liked by Emily Adopted

Thank you for sharing your story. You and I have lots in common, it sounds like. I am also an adoptee who was relinquished at birth into foster care, then adopted into an entirely unsuitable home by people who shouldn't have been allowed to adopt a kitten, let alone four human children. I wish you strength on your healing journey and the hope that we will both feel peace in our hearts and minds someday. Thanks again for your honesty and candor. Hugs 💞

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This message means a lot to me. Thank you, Shar. Take care of yourself xoxo

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Jul 11Liked by Emily Adopted

Devastatingly familiar indeed. Every goodbye, loss, rejection, picks at that primal wound; at 56, I've finally learned to observe the feeling--give it some love, give baby me some tenderness--without reacting to it. On January 1st this year I started a project: 365 Love Notes To Me, a daily journal where regardless of what I've journaled, I add a love note to myself. Almost all of them are to terrified baby me or little me in an unsafe home and engineered family. Also, estrangement from adopted brother and little contact with amom. Actively caring for my infant self has lead to exponential healing. All that to say, you're not alone and thank you for these honest and beautiful words.

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I love your project! You should write about that. I'm sure many people would love to read about what you say to yourself. Inner child work is so important. I often pretend I am in-utero in the bathtub and meditate underwater. It helps get me out of bad head spaces occasionally. Thank you for the comment and the generous subscription. You have inspired me to write more!

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Jul 14Liked by Emily Adopted

Oh wow, thanks for telling me that. I’m working on a piece about the project, so glad to hear you think that’s a good idea (so easy to stay stuck in my head telling myself ideas are dumb and no one cares:)

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People care!!!!!!!

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