I don't think I have a "normal" perspective on holidays. For my whole life, adoption has been the most prominent feature on my emotional landscape. As a result, I've felt "different" in a way that is "less than" as compared with my "normal" peers. So I've always been "chasing normal" and I don't know if I've ever found it. At no time during the year is this feeling more pronounced than holidays like Thanksgiving, Christmas and Easter, which are traditionally "family" oriented holidays.
I'm not one to give advice much but what works for me is to consume myself in the "trappings" of the holiday. Decorating, cooking, serving, entertaining are great ways to create an experience even as I wonder if this is what every "normal" person is feeling.
That’s a great share! I have started walking at night and watching comedy movies. Cooking and trying new seasonal recipes while listening to music I enjoy has been helpful. Journaling and talking to other adoptees on the phone has been nice too! I hope you get through the next few months. Sending love! ♥️
Create your own traditions that are fun and mean something to you. Keep it simple and remember at the end of the day these are consumer-driven holidays for capitalism so don’t feel guilty if you just relax and do nothing! 😋 You deserve it.
Do what YOU want. The traditions you make don’t need to look like anyone else’s. You know what you like and how you like it. Be that all the time, through YOU, for YOU.
I have been starting a new evening routine that involves watching comedy on streaming platforms and then going for a walk! I do my best to connect with a friend before bed and journal in the morning. Cooking my meals instead of ordering has brought me joy as well. Trying new recipes can be fun! Baths with scented epsom salt and nice music are nice as well! I hope you’re hanging in there, Winnie!!!! Sending love ♥️
I don't think I have a "normal" perspective on holidays. For my whole life, adoption has been the most prominent feature on my emotional landscape. As a result, I've felt "different" in a way that is "less than" as compared with my "normal" peers. So I've always been "chasing normal" and I don't know if I've ever found it. At no time during the year is this feeling more pronounced than holidays like Thanksgiving, Christmas and Easter, which are traditionally "family" oriented holidays.
I'm not one to give advice much but what works for me is to consume myself in the "trappings" of the holiday. Decorating, cooking, serving, entertaining are great ways to create an experience even as I wonder if this is what every "normal" person is feeling.
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That’s a great share! I have started walking at night and watching comedy movies. Cooking and trying new seasonal recipes while listening to music I enjoy has been helpful. Journaling and talking to other adoptees on the phone has been nice too! I hope you get through the next few months. Sending love! ♥️
Create your own traditions that are fun and mean something to you. Keep it simple and remember at the end of the day these are consumer-driven holidays for capitalism so don’t feel guilty if you just relax and do nothing! 😋 You deserve it.
Do what YOU want. The traditions you make don’t need to look like anyone else’s. You know what you like and how you like it. Be that all the time, through YOU, for YOU.
Amen sister! Love to you!
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I have been starting a new evening routine that involves watching comedy on streaming platforms and then going for a walk! I do my best to connect with a friend before bed and journal in the morning. Cooking my meals instead of ordering has brought me joy as well. Trying new recipes can be fun! Baths with scented epsom salt and nice music are nice as well! I hope you’re hanging in there, Winnie!!!! Sending love ♥️
I give thanks that I am alive and have people in my life who love me.
I am thankful for this as well. Thank you, Rodger. Happy holidays!