I don't think I have a "normal" perspective on holidays. For my whole life, adoption has been the most prominent feature on my emotional landscape. As a result, I've felt "different" in a way that is "less than" as compared with my "normal" peers. So I've always been "chasing normal" and I don't know if I've ever found it. At no time during the year is this feeling more pronounced than holidays like Thanksgiving, Christmas and Easter, which are traditionally "family" oriented holidays.
I'm not one to give advice much but what works for me is to consume myself in the "trappings" of the holiday. Decorating, cooking, serving, entertaining are great ways to create an experience even as I wonder if this is what every "normal" person is feeling.
Create your own traditions that are fun and mean something to you. Keep it simple and remember at the end of the day these are consumer-driven holidays for capitalism so don’t feel guilty if you just relax and do nothing! 😋 You deserve it.
Do what YOU want. The traditions you make don’t need to look like anyone else’s. You know what you like and how you like it. Be that all the time, through YOU, for YOU.
I don't think I have a "normal" perspective on holidays. For my whole life, adoption has been the most prominent feature on my emotional landscape. As a result, I've felt "different" in a way that is "less than" as compared with my "normal" peers. So I've always been "chasing normal" and I don't know if I've ever found it. At no time during the year is this feeling more pronounced than holidays like Thanksgiving, Christmas and Easter, which are traditionally "family" oriented holidays.
I'm not one to give advice much but what works for me is to consume myself in the "trappings" of the holiday. Decorating, cooking, serving, entertaining are great ways to create an experience even as I wonder if this is what every "normal" person is feeling.
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Create your own traditions that are fun and mean something to you. Keep it simple and remember at the end of the day these are consumer-driven holidays for capitalism so don’t feel guilty if you just relax and do nothing! 😋 You deserve it.
Do what YOU want. The traditions you make don’t need to look like anyone else’s. You know what you like and how you like it. Be that all the time, through YOU, for YOU.
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I give thanks that I am alive and have people in my life who love me.